Am i the only person who finds this thread insulting to SURVIVORS of abuse??? I understand perfectly well WHY my abuser abused me...but understanding that DIDN'T stop him abusing me...oh, pretty please i understand you, don't hurt me...and it DIDN'T / HASN'T helped the healing process any!!! So...if this thread is supposed to help survivors of abuse...i'm obviously too stupid to get it!!!...could somebody explain it to me please?