Faithful, I had trouble getting rid of my ex. What I did was put him in touch with a therapist, made him go the first time, then stopped taking his calls. When he came over threatening to commit suicide in front of me and the kids, I told him to go back to his therapist because I couldn't help him. I told him I didn't feel strong enough emotionally to give what he needed. I closed the door on him. He started driving by the house at all hours and days but I just ignored him. Once or twice he broke into the house accusing me of all sorts of things, so I'd pick up the phone and would call the police. He'd always leave before they got there. Wherever I went, he was there. When I remarried, he would call on the phone and since we had two kids between us, I'd pick up. If he started giving me grief, I'd tell him the conversation was over and I'd hang up. He finally got it. Just tell your friend not to take on her responsibility for herself. It's a crap shoot but that's the only way he's going to get rid of her.

<font color=blue>This above all: To thine own self be true. --Shakespeare</font color=blue>