OK, most of you on here know the history of my T and the stone. I told him Monday in session that while he was away, I tried using the stone I've had since about August to feel connected to him, but it didn't help. So I wondered if I should just give it back. He asked if I wanted to trade in the stone for a new one. I said, "But I'm concerned it would make you uncomfortable?" To which he said, "But I'm offering it to you." I told him I'd think about it. I would like another stone. Do I take him up on his offer? I want to ask him to pick which one he loans me (he picked the first time, I picked the second time--he has a lot of stones in there!). Part of me wonders if he'd (perhaps unintentionally) pick the same one I had originally. Part of me would like to have that one again, part of me feels maybe it has bad associations.

So, do I take him at his word that he's good with it and accept another stone? If so, let him pick? Take whichever one he offers (unless I hate it), even if it's the same stone as the original one? I know, this is all up to me, just sort of in a debate about it in my head. I could wait till he's about to go away again in a couple weeks, but part of me thinks it might be better just to do that now. I may also ask him what else he might be comfortable with to do before he goes out of town, like writing me brief note or leaving me brief voicemail, so that I'd give him a couple weeks to decide what he's comfortable with (part of the issue with original stone and note is that he said he felt put on the spot as I asked him the day before the interviews).