That is where I am so lucky with my t. If I can just give her a hint of what I need to talk about she will lead with questions, that I in turn feel...?compelled?...to answer. Admittedly it has taken 18mths to start opening up to the extent that I am now, but I am pushing myself to do it because she is making such an effort and so should I!!! So basically I guess it comes down to what kiya said- just time (and a great caring t that you fully trust).
take care and good luck (((((mick)))))