I have children and I may have passed my mental health issues on to them. I wish that weren't the case. However, there was zero indication anything was wrong with me until I was 38 which was well after my children were born. My mother had a manic episode in her 50s and stayed stable ever since. There was no indication she passed anything on to me or my brothers. I didn't know I would experience psychosis and there is nothing I can do other than educate my children and love them through any episodes they might experience. I will also support them if they choose to have children of their own. There is no crystal ball we can use to know exactly how the genes will land. I wouldn't fault them for a second if they grow up and decide having a child is worth it despite knowing their mother may have passed something on.

Hate is a painful emotion to carry around. It will not serve you well. I hope you are able to find your way to forgiveness for your father one day.

There are a lot of us here with children. Some of us have most definitely passed bipolar or other issues on. You might want to consider the trigger warning for this post as well. I'd be lying if I said I didn't find this offensive, but I'm trying to respect your right to your own opinion.