What is important to pay attention to is how much emotional baggage another person tries to dump on you. Often a person who wants to be good is helpful and caring and often it's this kind of person that others take advantage of where they begin to slowly dump their emotional baggage on the nice person. Life lessons tend to teach a person that carrying someone elses emotional baggage doesn't help to empower you or even gain you respect. Often someone is expected from an early age to carry a parent's emotional baggage and always please the parent or is expected to see dysfuntional interactions between their parents and stay quiet. So, not realizing it a child can develop the mindset that they have to carry the emotional baggage of others. A child can actually become very confused about what "respect" really means. This can make it harder on a person who struggles when they are disrespected into thinking they are the one at fault when someone else comes along and disrespects them. The truth is that there are lots of people out there that really do NOT know how to respect, they genuinely never learned what it means to respect others. It's always important to remember that just because another person doesn't show you respect it never means you don't deserve it.