My younger sister and I are in our 40s and we haven’t spoke in a couple months. It’s my fault but I don’t know how to turn off my feelings. She is very kind and works hard but I tend to criticize her like a child. We had a tough childhood and I was put in charge. As we got older, I graduated college, got married, and had kids. She started doing drugs and getting into one bad relationship after another. She pulled herself out of all that and has now been clean for over 10 years but I think the drugs may have stunted her emotional growth. The problem (to me) is that she doesn’t know how to act in most situations. . Very, very loud. Constant loud laugh, dresses inappropriately. She acts like she is in a bar.
I want her in my life but as a mother it’s hard to invite her places because I get horribly embarrassed. None of her clothes are appropriate for a school functions yet she wants to come to the kids events.
I did the mistake of finally telling her how I felt and now we aren’t talking.

Please help. I love her dearly.