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Originally Posted by fern46
I went for it yesterday and invited my mother to visit us in our home. I've been married for almost 11 years and she has never visited. My children have only met her once earlier this year at a gathering at my brother's house. She accepted and said she would be thrilled to visit. We are planning something for the week after next.
I am nervous everything will fall apart again, but I am holding on to hope that we can leave the past in the past and move forward. She hurt me deeply, but she was sick at the time and doesn't remember it all the way I do. I am ready to let it go and start over. She has proven herself to be stable for years and I don't have as much fear that she will hurt me again anymore. I am ready to accept the risk and handle it if it goes sideways. I can't get anywhere by continuing to avoid her.
Today has been pretty productive otherwise. I knocked out some chores, played outdoors with my children and got my daily exercise in. It is raining now, so I'm planning on a quiet and relaxing afternoon.
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Your open heart makes quite an outstanding impression. At least on me, it does! I think you are working through the steps to "allow for healing" within your relationship with your mom. You have opened the door and have consciously taken a risk. I feel you are very courageous in opening your heart, and your door, hoping to heal a relationship which has a history of past hurt.
And so, a reminder to me to reach out, mindfully, with clear intention of achieving a healthy, healing relationship, especially with people who may have hurt me.
We are all given such a tremendous opportunity to share here. I know I benefit greatly. I do appreciate your openness in sharing.
I am hoping you, your family, your mom will only be only blessed by coming together again.
