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Originally Posted by tecomsin
I have the flu. Yesterday, temperature was over 101, so too high to be a cold. It started with a blistering headache this past Thursday morning and evolved into a sore throat and fever. Now I am only having a mild fever but coughing and sneezing a lot.
I think that triangulation my sister did to me through my son is what made me sick. She is a toxic person to me. I feel thoroughly manipulated and her justification for doing this was that she was afraid to talk to me, again making me out to be the bad guy. So instead she makes stuff up and complains to my son, and then makes him promise to keep it a secret. So I get a secret interrogation over dinner where he is constantly texting with her on the phone only for him to call me later and spilling the beans. I do not know if I will want to see him again anytime soon. I feel thoroughly manipulated and used.
Also I can't just ignore my sister's texts. She has called the police before to do a wellness check when I didn't answer her texts.
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Oh, dear tecomsin!
Yikes! You sound very ill with the flu!
I am very concerned about you. Will your son help you while you recover?
I hope so. I hate to think of you struggling all alone. Makes me want to make you homemade chicken soup!
About you sister: She sounds like a piece of work. The way you describe her... she sounds very controlling and in need of further boundary-setting. At the same time, I do fully appreciate that since she contacts the police, you feel she has you over a barrel. Geez! What to do?
When she contacts the police, and the police show up, have you ever told them your sister is a control freak and is out-of-line for calling them?
It's possible you'd feel they might listen to you.
This is a situation I think happens fairly often, where we are in a position in which others do, seemingly, have us over a barrel. In many cases, these people feel a false sense of power in reporting, to the police or to someone else, their "concern," and they feel their "concern" justifies plowing through boundaries! in reality, they are seeking something-- a sense of worthiness or a sense of power, or something -- for themselves and not for the one about which they express "concern."
Their meddling is truly not appreciated.
I wish I had a good solution to offer to you.
i hope you recover quickly, tecomsin.
Much Love~
