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Originally Posted by tecomsin
I have a history of not being able to speak up when my feelings are being hurt by friends or other people. I still have a lot of difficulty doing things in real time, but when I have time to reflect i can usually compose something for the next time we speak.
I was recently dumped in the middle of an outing when the person got a phone call and decided to meet their other friend instead of stay with me. We had just finished lunch and had plans to go to the park on one of the nice days. It wasn't until I got home that i was able to text her that my feelings were hurt by what she did. But you can't unring that bell. I learned that I was her backup friend and haven't spoken to her since. Stopped texting too. I think that 6 year friendship is over.
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Wow, I’m sorry that happened. Sounds like she was just using you as a back up friend like you mentioned. Yeah the friendship is probably over. It may suck now but in the long run, you will feel better. I’ve had toxic friendships end and honestly after they ended, it was literally like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. In fact, I found myself to be happier soon afterwards. Yes I will admit I would feel disappointed for a bit that it had to end that way and wished the person was better, but I felt happier in the long run.