Thanks, Moose. Thankfully I live independently and 1000s of miles from my sister in a different country.

My Dad died before he had a chance to change his will from when he was married. But he had made his wishes known to a lawyer. Since my father divorced that left my sister the sole inheritor, executor and trustee. She is following his instructions except that she decided to gift one of my father's assets to me. She didn't ask me ahead of time.

I wrote back and said I didn't want any of my father's estate, and to distribute my share directly from her. I said I might want a part of that one asset that I inherited to go to some relatives besides my son and her children. I said I needed time to think about the distribution. She agreed to do all this but then...

She went behind my back and argued to my son that I must be manic and needed to be hospitalized. He was in a panic when he met me for lunch on Wednesday. I had told her i would be discussing the division of my part with him on Monday. So she used the intervening two days to tell my son that not only was she not going to follow my wishes, she lied and said I wanted ALL of that assset to go to other relatives, that I was sounding manic and having an urgent mental health crisis. Meanwhile she swore him to secrecy so he had to interrogate me for my mental status, argue against how I wanted the division and not tell me any of her concerns.

We had a surreal dinner conversation where he was obviously stressed and he was texting all the time we were talking to HER...

Then he finally came clean and told me what she had done, the whole thing. But that was in a phone call after our dinner had ended.