Hi yellow_fleurs, my experience is that she will lie to make me look like the bad guy. I think she gets some kind of thrill from it. All of our estate matters were discussed via email so there is a record of everything. I had not specified the division only that i was thinking that a part of it could go to other family. Once I dropped that her concern about my mental state vanished and i haven't heard from her for several days.

I have practised grey rock with her in the past. She is 'nice' to me as long as everything goes exactly according to her wishes, and she won't tell me when it doesn't. Instead she claims I am mentally ill and runs to my son with an exaggerated version of the truth. If she had any questions about where my thinking was leaning she could have asked me.

I am going back to grey rock with her for the foreseeable future. She apologized neither to me or . my son for creating this drama and spoiling our dinner together and maybe even doing irreparable harm to our relationship. I don't know what other lies she has told him.