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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia2
I would always try to settle conflict / dissatisfaction directly with anyone first, before I complain to a third party. The thing with that T though was that he could not take criticism and became extremely defensive, threw it back to me with some twisted interpretation, just not receptive and was unwilling to discuss and take responsibility. At the same time, he encouraged me to go to session and tell him my concerns as a form of treatment, to express my anger. But what for if the concerns are not received really, I generally don't have issues with anger and don't tend to bottle it up, am pretty direct. It made no sense to me and I found it useless to pay a T high $ to just fight with him. So I just left.
In my case, it had nothing to do with my boundaries or needing/expecting unrealistic things from him. It started out with his sloppiness: he was repeatedly unable to correctly fill out his portion on my insurance claim forms, always made mistakes and I had to redo the forms multiple times and got very upset when I complained. He also tried to impose authority that he never earned and often talked to me as though I was a kid or something. And told me very inappropriate things several times. He was also a complete mess with his own boundaries. The guy is just plain insecure and incompetent, IMO. What is there to talk about, really, don't see how that would have served me well. He was also pretty useless for me as a therapist and actually would have made some of my issues worse if I listened to him. He also refused to respond to my requests for his therapy notes repeatedly - I am almost sure because he did not keep proper ones. Would fit with his overall sloppiness and unprofessionalism.
I tried to post reviews on my experience online but he managed to have them removed, together with other negative reviews I had seen. I am sure any complains would have been unsuccessful and mostly just would have cultivated resentments dealing with it. He does a lot of social media and I have seen him many times just removing critical posts, much like the reviews and his inability to face challenge in person.
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Sounds like you did best thing for this situation and T for sure. I hope all has worked out now with new T experiences etc.
I did a quick exit with one T the used many different disciplines and was interesting to say the least. She had a problem with my smoking and seemed it would get on my clothes and she could smell it. I was instructed to quit smoking all together or take a shower, put clean clothes on and do not smoke till after the session and I was back in my car...oh and to make sure I drove with the windows open when going to sessions since the car would have smoke debris in it and transfer to my clothing. I called her the before the next session and quit since I felt I could not actually adhere to her rules on my pretense and air quality when I was present. She called back and absolutely insisted I come in and talk it out. At that time I was addicted to smoking, bad habit but true for me at the time. She did do the insurance claim paperwork and sent it to me as she should. It took a couple years for me to try another T but that turned out very well for me.