AA is for people who need a lot of structure. Being told what to do and how to do it is very reassuring in many cases. Struggling with something as difficult as an addiction warrants whatever kind of help the person can stick to. My dad was an alcoholic and I lived with someone who was 14 years into recovery. I need a lot of structure for my bipolar as well, so I understand. I think posters here have very important info on the subject and I think this thread is one of the best I have ever read on the forums. Huge hugs, people!