As a person that has self harmed off and on my whole life. As bad as it is it releases endorphins so it feels good on one level. Very unhealthy level of course.

So he has Bipolar? Is he being treated for it ? Does he see a Therapist? I worked nights for nearly a decade before I was diagnosed Bipolar and that’s the first thing I was advised to do is flip to a day shift.

Would he be willing to go to couples counseling?

Your on meds , that’s good, but do you have a Therapist ? You need someone to process all this with and decide what’s best for you and the children.

I’m sorry your in a difficult position.