I went 1 a week for about a year and I would go through a similar cycle and by the time for my next session, I didn't need to talk about any of it because I was "fine" and I didn't "trust" her any more. We upped to 2x a week and my transference intensified. So much more came up and was talked about. At the same time, the longing and missing was almost unbearable at times. After a year or so on 2x a week and after much discussion, we increased to 3x a week. I'm now at a little over a year at 3x week (Mon, Tues, Thur). My obsessing about her changed, the longing is not nearly as painful, I feel more secure that she is there. I still miss and want her between sessions, especially on our long weekend, I can often set it aside and do whatever it is life needs of me. I still write her between sessions both in a journal and through email. Since our big rupture this spring, I've been emailing her every day that I do not have session. I am getting closer to dropping the daily contact, I'm not sure yet if we've completely repaired the rupture. I don't tend to repair ruptures so I'm not sure what it looks like.

As to some of the other comments, yes in my part of the world, going 1 x week is the norm. I too feel that this type of therapy can be extremely helpful for some and wish there wasn't so much stigma around it and wished that insurance didn't have as much say in someone's treatment plans. I am lucky that my insurance has and does cover all my sessions. I too am fearful that they will at some point review my case and decide not to cover the additional sessions.