Someone wanted to hang out but I was finding our time together very stressful. So I didn't make time for her.

Ok, that's not the big progress part, as I have done that with her before.

But here's the difference:

Before, I felt so guilty that I ended up eventually reaching out to her to "make up" for not hanging out for a while. I let her "looks" and silent treatment make me feel like I need to "correct" my unavailability. But then this "makeup-hangout" also turned out to be stressful.

So this time, after declining her offer to hang out, I didn't reach back out to her. I told myself that I have already given this tries and don't need to try anymore. I don't need to constantly put myself in a stressful situation trying to accommodate someone else's requests. I am not obligated to do that and I deserve to do what gives me peace.

P.S. Also, I feel bad when someone tells me she has no one else to hang out with. But now I am realizing that it is not my job to fill in someone else's void. I mean, it's good to have compassion for others, but also for self.