So...

My fiance is probably too close to his mother. When I met him in 2018, she was still doing his laundry and cooking his meals. I thought it was odd, he was 28 at the time but I only went as far as making jokes. Now we are engaged and living together. His mother HATES me. She spends most of her time with him trying to convince him to leave me. The more time my fiance and I spent together, the more I am convinced this is an unhealthy co-dependent relationship. His mother was still on his bank account, still had his car in her name, often calls and request that he do things for her, without consideration for plans we may have, or the fact that we live 35 minutes away. When we decided to move in together, his mother cleaned out his $70,000 savings account and refuses to return it until he leaves me. She has also refused to come to our wedding and told him "this is the biggest mistake of your life."

I am a college-educated woman, with a good job and no children. I come from a respectable family and have never even been pulled over for a speeding ticket. I am also African American and he is caucasian.

His mother has done this to her older son as well. Same financial situation and same controlling behavior.

Please ask any questions for clarification. I want to know if this is something I should try and fix with my future husband or should I let him go? Is there even a problem here? Please Help!