EMDR T and I brainstormed ideas of ways to help me. I told her that since I know she is a safe person if she felt it qas appropriate it would be okay to touch my hand, back, etc. I told jer once T touched my shoulder. It really helped me to feel safe. Emdr T told me if she were to touch me she would say so. Ex "Not I am going to put my hand on your shoulder now" If I were to not want ut and make any type of indication of that, I will back off and tell you so"