For many the whole need for therapy is abuse or neglect in there youth ,rocking the boat is part of the process ,not pretty or pleasant but a very neccesary part of treatment , JMHO if you don't feel worse after therapy you are wasting your time.

Drag out the emotional baggage ,feel it experience it ,let it wash over you ,is part of the process so you can wash it off ,sunlight is the best disinfectant known to man ,give it it's 15 minutes of fame .

Many struggle from baggage from either "stuffing" or unresolved unproccessed stuff,i am not saying re traumatize yourself by going at it like its your only job ,but if you make a commitment to yourself to say alternate ,at least 1 appointment you drag the crap out into the light ,expose it feel it (lean on your support people ,you dont have to be a hero ,matter of fact being heroic might have contributed to you needing therapy) but commit to one deep therapy session and one distraction visit ,its a challenge ,but more importantly its an investment in you(if your not good to yourself nobody else will be either).

There is a great book on anxiety called "feel the fear and do it anyway" ,if you give yourself a required intensive appointment every other visit and try and push yourself ,you will progress faster and feel better more often and sooner . Being cautious and guarded about therapy , and exposing "too much" will keep you in therapy for life .

When what you really want is to "knuckle down" and go all in .The harder you work the easier it gets ,until soon your making small talk at appointments.

I had a great "matched" therapist ,not every appointment had to be painfull ,or "productive" sometimes we would just chat about lighthouses or genealogy which both of us had alot of intrest in ( because of that intrest both the therapist and you are learning from each other and making connections ,that pay off ,because it helps you both to know how the other person "ticks",that will allow your therapist to better help you).

If you break therapy down to its most basic form ,it is a paid non judgemental friend, who won't think any less of you if you ball your eyes during your session ,or leave with more on your mind then what you came in with. Thats a normal healthy needed part of therapy.

You don't have to have a neck breaking pace ,however challenging your known boundaries is how you grow ,and what's growth ?, it's Healing and re intergrating all of you into a stronger healthier whole person .