Thank you for all your replies. When I say church it's a single parent group that the church organises which meet once a month. We have both been going for about 8 years and have probably been friends on fb for over 5 years even though we would only see each other and chat at group. Just over a year ago we started meeting up together days out, staying over at mine, chatting couple of times a week on the phone, going to the gym twice a week etc. Weve booked a holiday together for october so we are more than transitional friends. I text her about a bbq on sunday and the response I got was virtually all about her. I've decided I'm just gonna leave her now and see if she contacts me. I dont have it mentally in me to keep trying. I've made contact 3 times with her now so I'm waiting to see if and when she decides to contact me