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Originally Posted by kiwi215
Interestingly, I don’t see T#8 as a bully or mean or evil person. Truly I think she wanted the best for me, but that got muddled with potentially countertransference and her inexperience in the field. I learned from this experience though that when you are hurt by someone, whether or not they intended it doesn’t change the fact that you were hurt and now are responsible for healing.
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this was one of the most difficult aspects of the therapy harm for me to personally come to terms with. my ex-T wasn't being evil or malicious...he actually has quite a big kind heart and means well, but it was mainly his own unresolved/ unknown underlying issues and countertransference sprinkled with a bit of a lack of competency to work with my complex issues that lead to most the harm. it's this conflict, plus the fact that i cared deeply for him, and still do as a person (and he says he cares for me too), that has been the most challenging to understand, except, and to get my head and heart fully around.