Christina it sounds like you're just being honest about what you anticipate the experience to be like. I don't see it as complaining. I have a hard time being comfortable in other people's homes as well, especially when they won't let me help out. I usually just sneak around and do stuff to help anyway. Maybe they will be more open to your helping out if they knew it helps you to cope.

I know you're happy to see your family. Hopefully you can feel comfortable to escape with your books or online when you need to without fear of judgement from your friends. Self care is often even more important when you're away from the comforts of home. Hugs.