Sorry I am still new here. In response to theoretical, yes, there was a lot of alienation built up. We haven't been intimate for over 2.5 years. We stopped kissing. We essentially became friends. My wife said that my anger made her fear me and that since it repeated itself, she couldn't forgive me any longer. We considered couples counseling, but that never manifested itself and now, with her mother hating me, it is impossible to reconcile, according to her.

I do have a kind heart, but it has been stepped on many times, and my anger is from my childhood. I have never found a way to "undo" my anger. I guess this divorce will be my lesson to learn.

Thanks for the responses. I appreciate it.