Hello Bugsy: Thank you for sharing your concern here on PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central. I'm sorry you are faced with this difficult situation. Hopefully coming here to PC can be of some comfort & support. Two additional forums, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships forum & the women-focused support forum. Here are links to these forums:

https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/

https://psychcentralforums.com/women-focused-support/

One resource you may want to check out, if you haven't already, would be the domestic violence hotline:

National Domestic Violence Hotline | Get Help Today | 1-800-799-7233

And then here's a link to a listing of domestic violence resources compiled by Psych Central staff plus links to 6 articles on the subjects of domestic violence as well as on getting out of an abusive relationship:

Domestic Violence Organizations and Resources

How to Deal with Domestic Violence

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-ways...-relationship/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/in-an-...steps-to-take/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/6-tips...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/you-de...-relationship/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...-relationship/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.