Ok because I am socially inept did I do something wrong. My ex's and his new gf came to visit and I asked if they wanted coffee and straight up she said would you like me to make it? This puzzled me because why would I want someone I just met in my kitchen? So I said " no I'm right thanks" apparently this didn't go down well. It's just my thing I have never let another woman in my kitchen ever even though my ex MIL tried her hardest for nearly 20 years. My kitchen is where I relax and it would feel dirty if some woman was in it. I would have to wash everything. I don't know why this is bothering me I think because I want to appear nice. I do think my ex explained it like that.