DBT does wonders for people with BPD but it also helps depression. DBT will help you gain the skills to tolerate your feelings and stop the all or nothing thoughts. I really hope you can find a DBT group Hope. I don't have BPD but I went to classes for 2 years and have improved so much with them. I have huge issues dealing with emotions. It is a slow process but so worth it. At least noq I know what I need to work on and how to do it. It is now up to me whether I want to do the right thing or not. I am in control.

I know some people try to do it on their own but I personally could never have made any progress without the classes. It takes a lot of effort to get your mind to look at things differently and my mind was just too screwed up and stuck in it's ways to turn things around on my own.

I wish you the best hope. Remember you are still the same person with the same problems with or without a dx but as long as you have one, try working on recovery. The same skills that improve BPD also improve depression and anxiety. It certainly can't hurt.