That sounds like what is often described as gaslighting. I had a T like that and I never regretted dumping him. It wasn't as easy as never looking back, and I often second-guessed my perceptions and feelings but, ultimately, it was the best decision.


I think there is a huge difference between being constructively critical and shaming someone (often for the mere sake of coming off superior). And I think people who do the shaming often are completely or largely unaware of what they are doing and why, they avoid dealing with their own motives and shift blame to find "reasons" in the other. It is abusive and not realizing it is no excuse, especially from a therapist!