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The reason why you show up for therapy and do the hard work by exposing your pain? As he explained the reason Mario in Mario brothers game goes through all that is because he is trying to save the princess. So what is my princess and the end of therapy?
That was the question that was posed to me in session this week. In other words why are you here?
I most certainly did not say, "Why because I love you and would die if I did not see you like a child feels in a store when they turn around and mommy/daddy are gone." I feel like the earth would fall out from under me if you kicked me out or said we are preparing for termination. No no no.
What I did was go through all the things therapy has helped me with up to this point and what still needed to be resolved like me going from calm to a basket case in a flash. So overwhelming emotions that over come me hense the webinar.
So what is your princess?
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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