You guys aren't alone.

Shortly before T and I had our rupture this past spring, I finally told her about my fears of a male T in the same suite as her. When I was trying to work through our rupture, she brought up something in relationship to my fears. I was so mad because those fears started like a year prior, it had taken me that long to bring it up to her and it felt like she treated it as if it was some how related to the rupture.

Maybe that was part of the need for the long break from therapizing. I know a big part was that I needed her to stop bringing up things I had said - felt like she was weaponizing my own words. Ok, so I got issues