i was 17 when i left home and hadnt graduated high school yet. i have heard of lifeskills. we had that at centerville and there was one in middletown (ohio).

granted i didn't have all the problems you describe but im so glad my parents let go. when i fell on my face they were there to help and now i see all these kids my age who dont even know how to balance a check book because their parents did everything for them and never let them leave.

sounds like maybe he needs to fall flat on his face before he grows up a little bit. but if he doesnt have a job how do you expect him to move out anyways?

i think it would not only benefit you, but him also. everyone needs time on their own to figure out who they are. my boyfriend never got that and he still struggles with identity issues and jsut simply not knowing how to handle situations because he has never had to face them. he went from his parents house, to school with his friends, to moving in with me. and admittedly, that was partially my fault and i shouldnt have let him move in. but its much more of a struggle now to do simple everyday things because he has never had this experience before.

i think me moving out was good for me and my moms health. mostly because we would have killed each other lol good luck with your son. im sorry to hear that he treats you like that. you deserve more respect than that especially since youre trying to clean up.