Drugs and daydreaming. Sometimes having some alone time is good.

You sometimes say you are the difficult person--can't say that I see any evidence of it in your posts. What I do see is evidence that you feel guilty about setting boundaries with people. I do understand that you have a job and at work you may have responsibilities that are difficult and unavoidable. Also, as a couple (when you are married like we are ), there are things that we have agreed to do that take up our time. For instance, I do nearly all the cooking and much of the housework. Having done most of the cooking for so long, I can do this pretty fast and without much fuss. It helps that I like to cook and am not working much lately. There are things my husband takes care of too. There are also things that neither of us like to do. Having been married a long time--I have learned to ignore some of the things that neither of us are motivated to do. Examples of this would be cleaning out clutter that is his stuff (he would not like it if I threw away any of his things of course) and mowing the yard. It just doesn't get done and I have learned to let it lie (looks terrible but I am not going to take these chores on so I ignore it and let it be because my husband isn't going to do these things unless he wants to--I have learned that nagging won't help and I don't want to have that role. ) The trick is figuring out how to increase your discretionary time at both work and home. Don't be afraid to say "no" (or say there is something you need to do when people come to your desk at work to talk).

Do you think you say "no" enough and ignore responsibilities that you dislike and are not mandatory? (Our yard looks terrible but unless we get complaints I have learned to ignore it and if someone complained I would tell them to talk to my H about it--I would not take on that responsibility/monkey.) Also, have you learned to ignore things and let them be? These are two ways to deal with difficult people/situations from my POV.