Honestly unaluna, I think that golden was being disrespected in both scenarios and she was being stressed both at work and at home. I think in both areas she was expected to do more than she was capable of doing too. I honestly think she is trying to be more assertive and look for ways to get her boundaries respected.

What I have noticed about her is that she tends to be expected to provide more than she can instead of being appreciated for what she TRIES to accomplish. For example, I thought the wedding she planned was actually nice. golden planned something within her means and when she showed a picture of her dress, I honestly thought it was nice and yet I did not really hear others saying that to her respecting her and being excited for her. Instead, what I read was how others wanted her to somehow come up with a big wedding that she really could not afford and no one stepped up and said, "how can I help you afford a bigger wedding?". Truth is, the trend has actually been that of couples having a much smaller wedding because it's way too much to have a big wedding now, so what she did was right on key with the trend. She ended up pretty much covering the entire expense and faced pouts and "you need to do for me" statements when she really did not deserve to experience that. From what she has shared, she has not gotten the respect she deserved and it hurts her because she does really try and she tries very hard to do things nice too. She needs reassurance and support here because she doesn't get enough of that from the people around her. IMHO, she has dealt with too much narcissistic abuse where her efforts simply were not respected the way they should have been. That tends to create a certain amount of low self esteem when instead she needed to have people respect things she accomplished which from what she has shared have been mostly on her own in her life.