I agree, I tend to see T as an emotional consultant as I was in the consulting field for many years. I pay T for his time and training but the outcomes are mine, hiring and firing are mine. I absolutely adore T but he is a hired “employee” offering no “goods” to be sold other than a trained, outside perspective.
Yes, there is an emotional connection between T and I, contact outside of sessions, rules and boundaries... but I had all of these things with many of my clients as well. The biggest difference is that by the nature of the contract I worked under there were very clear, measurable outcomes I had to be able to enable my clients to achieve. If I wanted something that black and white with T I would have to put more effort into defining goals than achieving them and I would rather achieve.