Hi Crook32,

I am sorry this process has been so problematic.

I totally agree with you. Salary/hourly wage must be disclosed, as well as insurance and any/all other benefits.
You need to know these things in order to decide if it's best for you to accept a job offer or not.

You must feel ... a lot of negative feelings... when friends and family start second-guessing you! I'd be very upset if my family did this to me.

I hope you will get more detailed information about every aspect of this decision and will have clarity in knowing if this position is for you or not.

I often find it helpful to set my intentions about various aspects of my life. In this case, I might outline my "intentions" re: work/getting a new job. I then find out more detailed information and see if any of it meets any of my "intentions." Just something I often find helpful.

I hope things come into alignment enough to allow you to assess things and to make decisions with clarity.!!!