Change is complicated, and a paradigm shift doesn't occur like people think, on demand or on wish!! Experiences, environment and our genetic make-up shape our lives to a large degree. People don't believe they can change until change happens to them, but change is a process that takes input from different sources, choice may not be the strongest factor, because we cannot control everything despite our best efforts. We are in a way destined, as I see it. We either accept it or not.

People try their best in their current state of mind, but something else has to happen in response to our modest attempts to change our state of mind and way of thinking. But when nothing is working and the past experiences are painful, it is difficult to be optimistic, and without optimism and hope, we are pretty much doomed. I live in this state of mind now; I don't see any hope.