I would get a new therapist. I think you are Schizoid. I have heard it said that Avoidants "can't" be around people but really wish they could. While Schizoids don't feel anything about not being around other people. But be advised, I find we have a lot in common but I don't consider myself schizoid. I just am a loner. I find people to be problems always. That doesn't mean that if I was surrounded my wonderful caring people who made my life better I wouldn't respond in kind.

My sister is at her wits end because i refuse to be friends with my cousins. I have told her a zillion times... it isn't anything personal I just don't see any room for them in my life and she just can't understand this... she squeaks... but their family? SO?