Hello Crysr: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I don't know that I'm able to really be of much help with your concern. It certainly does sound "fishy" to me. However here are links to 10 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that (hopefully) may be of some help. Some of them are written from the perspective of offering advice to persons who may be having emotional affairs rather than from the spouse's perspective. But hopefully the information in the articles can be of some help to you too:

What Is An Emotional Affair | Psychology of Women

What Everyone Should Know About Emotional Affairs

3 Danger Signs Your Partner May Be Having An Affair

What if You Suspect Emotional Infidelity?

3 Signs You Might Be Having An Emotional Affair

https://psychcentral.com/blog/dealin...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/5-ways...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relat...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/18-tel...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/the-ni...se-accusation/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.