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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
It is clear that my younger wounded child parts do not want love care and compassion from the adult version of myself. They do not. It does not work me visualizing caring for these parts. I have tried this over and over with this therapist and another therapist.
It is surmised that the reason is because I just have not learned to have compassion for myself. Not sure how to get that.
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Well, I guess the thing is that isn't even what the compassionate parts will be helping them with...
the younger wounded parts want the kind of love and care that can only be given in childhood. The type of love and care they want is the love and care of a responsive and loving parent. And there is no parent here to give that anymore.
The compassionate adult parts help the wounded children come to terms with the fact that they never got what the needed. That window has closed. The parents screwed up. The compassionate parts step in to assist with the grief.
However, once the grief is done THEN the wounded younger parts are able to accept the care , comfort and love of the compassionate adults. But only once they realize that what they desperately yearn for is no longer there to be had. And until they truly realize that they will keep searching for what can never be found.