Step 1 – Find a Resource
A. Caregiver-Self Resource 
Look for a part of self that enjoys nurturing or protecting someone in need of care, like a child, a pet, plants, a student, or
someone elderly, handicapped, or sick. It could be a current relationship, or one from the past. It could involve caregiving
in a long-term relationship (e.g. a grandchild), or in just a single remarkable event (e.g. helping a neighborhood child in
crisis). It could be in a personal relationship you had or have (e.g. with your pets) or your professional role (e.g. as a nurse,
teacher, veterinarian). The caregiving relationship should be free of unresolved trauma. It should only reflect caregiving
moments when the most adult self is fully present, with no wounded parts active.
Did you find one?
- If NO, go to B below.
- If YES, ask yourself…
Would THIS LOVED ONE say I’m a competent caregiver (in that specific event)? AND If I’d been raised by
someone who was as good to me, as I am/were to THIS LOVED ONE (in that specific event), would that have
been a good thing?
- If NO, look for a better Caregiver-Self Resource, or go to B below.
- If YES, go to Step 2 – Name the Resource, page 5.

I chose the part of me that takes care of my dog