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Real-Other Resource from personal observation
Think about someone you personally observed to be a good caregiver of someone else, but without direct interaction or
direct caregiving - like your brother’s baseball coach, your 5th grade best friend’s mother, or your sister’s ballet teacher.
Did you find one?
- If NO, go to E below.
- If YES, ask yourself…
If I’d been raised by someone who was as good to me as THIS SUPPORTIVE PERSON is/was to SOMEONE ELSE ,
would that have been a good thing?
- If NO, look for a better Real-Other Resource, or go to E below.
- If YES, go to Step 2 – Name the Resource, page 5.
I chose my pastor Justin
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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