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Now What?
This Special Safe Place is a home base for your wounded parts. In the future, Resources will calm down triggered parts by
meeting their emotional needs. Then you’ll invite the calmed parts to settle in to this place to rest and play.
If you know of something stressful coming up, that might trigger wounded parts – in advance, you can explain to the parts
what’s going to happen. Tell them when it will be over. Then invite them to hang out here with Resources. That way your
most adult self can handle the stress, while wounded parts play.
Warning!!!
Wounded parts will usually be happy to rest and play in their Special Safe Place as long as you listen to them, understand
their concerns, and take their emotional needs seriously. But if they feel ignored, abandoned, and dumped here, they’ll push
back. So make meeting their needs a high priority and they’ll be happy to hang out here while you do adult stuff, knowing
you’ll be there when they need you
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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