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Step 2 – Contact the Triggered Part
Notice how old you feel, what year it feels like, or if it feels like you’re reliving a specific upsetting event. The age you feel is
likely the triggered part’s age. Looking inward, try to make direct contact with the part. The part is there, whether or not you
find it right away. Whether or not you make direct contact, say to the part…
Welcome! I’m really glad you’re here! I know you’ve been hurting a long time.
Convey a sense of compassion and empathy when addressing a part. It may help to use a term of endearment, like honey,
precious, little one, or sweetheart. But use your discretion - some parts might not like it.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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