Step 5 – Explain About the Recording
(So sweetheart) growing up, you had that very wounding experience with WOUNDING PERSON(S) . While that
was happening, your brain was making a recording of it – like filming a home movie. And that recording has been
inside ever since. Something just pressed “PLAY” on that recording. And that’s why you’re so upset. When this
recording plays back, it FEELS like THE WOUNDING EXPEREINCE is happening again – right now! But it’s not. You’re
not reliving the bad experience, you’re just reliving your reaction to it.
Ask the Resources if they believe the old recording can hurt you now, like WOUNDING PERSON(S) hurt you back
then. What do they say?
When Resources say the recording is harmless, ask… What’s it like to hear that?
If the part is still not sure about that, say… If you were to watch a scary movie, you’d feel fear, right? But you wouldn’t
be in danger, because a movie isn’t real life. And this old recording of WOUNDING PERSON(S) is not real life either.
Discuss this until the triggered part understands.

Step 6 – Assess Your Progress
(So honey) are you still very upset about THE TRIGGERING EVENT ?
- If YES, ask the part… What else do you need now? Then return to Steps 3-5 above.
- If NO or MUCH LESS UPSET, go to Step 7 below.