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Step 7 – Invite the Part to Settle In
When there’s nothing else to talk about you’ll invite the part to settle in to the Special Safe Place, so your adult self can be
fully front and center again. Your invitation will depend on whether or not you have a therapist who can follow up with this
wounded part.
If you have a therapist, say…
(So honey) I’d like to see you get unstuck and heal at
the perfect time. I’m not sure when that’s going to be,
hopefully soon. Our therapist can help us work on that.
Now find a nice, cozy, safe place to settle in to your
Special Safe Place. Settle in with the Resources. Find a
good place to rest and play, until the next time you’re
needed.
If you DON’T have a therapist, say…
(So honey) your future well-being is very important
to me. Please know that I’m here for you, and the
Resources are here for you – whenever you need us.
Now find a nice, cozy, safe place to settle in to your
Special Safe Place. Settle in with the Resources. Find
a good place to rest and play, until the next time
you’re needed.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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