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Originally Posted by Amyjay
That is all very similar (not exactly, but similar enough that I can recognize the parallels) to what my T and I do (part of what we do) and it can actually make a huge difference. The hurt parts of our selves are stuck in the past. They respond to triggers as if the traumas are happening right here and right now. Their whole physiological being responds as though the trauma is occurring in the present. All of these steps outlined above are to try to get the parts of the brain that respond to current day triggers as present day threats to calm (calming the nervous system response) and to allow the frontal cortex ('adult mind'/compassionate self) to come back online.
It reads like make-believe, but its actually based on neuroscience. Its all about retraining the brain.
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Do you have attachment issues? Are you so attached to your therapist you see him/her as the caring parent even if they are not trying to play that role?
When I try to visualize all my resources the child part and teenage parts throws a tantrum because she does not want them she wants a real person.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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