Not sometimes, but almost always for me. I've had very few really good friends over the course of my life, but all but three basically disappeared without saying goodbye or even telling me how much they hated me and never wanted to see me again. It's more painful for me to be abandoned than to be attacked. I know that says something about me.
We started covering Patanjali's sutras again tonight in yoga. The first of which is to be non-harming. It couldn't have been more appropriately timed. I had already made plans to cause harm tonight in a self-directed manner. I chose not to, and went to fix a meal for two of my kids that live together. It's rough, crying during down dog, but I knew I needed to deal with how I feel and not to harm. Now I'm home, alone, and can let all the pain out. So, I'm crying and going to sleep immediately.