Time to dump him for good, @Traveljunkie! I'm so sorry you've had to put up with such AWFUL behavior I agree with what ALL the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could. Now is your chance to RUN AWAY! You deserve much, much better. Dump him and live your own life as you should. I hope you'll be able to find some who TRULY Loves you for who you TRULY are! Focus on yourself for now. That's my advice. RUN! Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, Traveljunkie, and to ALL the people you Love and who TRULY Love you and Accept you for WHO you TRULY are! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING! You deserve better, my dear, sweet friend! Please NEVER give up hope! Please hang in there as much as you possibly can! YOU ROCK!