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Originally Posted by CantExplain
What is grief for? What survival value does it have?
It is eay to see what anger, fear and love are for. Anger prompts us to fight to defend our family. Fear prompts us to run away from fights we can't win. Love prompts us to look after each other. But what does grief do that is any use?
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Grief is a process we go through to adapt to significant change/loss. Change requires adjustment. Significant loss is a major change; thus, it requires a longer, more gradual adjustment. When we don't allow for that gradual adjustment, when we try to rush it, ignore it, fight it, then the loss can become traumatic (complicated grief).