That is the big issue.

She thinks he would not out of spite but he is incapable of taking care of himself much less a rambunctious 6 year old. She had her mom look after him while she was here.

She wants to come with or without him but also knows she could not without him. I guess her coming alone initially to wait for him to give permission is a possibility but would be hard on both of them.

What might work is the idea of him going to school here, they have been discussing sending him outside of Russia to school, especially an English speaking school and there is a program here in the public schools for immigrant kids that help teach them English while keeping up with their other studies in their native language. They do have teachers in the program fluent in Russian.

He starts first grade in the fall and wants to wait a little to see how he does and try to sort out her feelings. We are planning another meeting in the Spring or next Summer but maybe this fall she will ask me to start the K1 visa process.

The other issue is a job for her and I need to do research. She thinks the accounting principles she learned are different than in the US and certainly, tax procedures are very different so is concerned about getting a reasonably paying job.

I try to remind myself we are still new in the relationship but I seem to be in a panic because of my age, which is goofy, I know. I don't have any doubts about who she is, her intentions or if we fit well together.

What makes me sure is that she has a lot of stress in Russia and I was able to erase it all with my calm but boring life. That seems like a good sign.